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Posts tagged “Mindset”

Well, it’s almost THAT day of the year again. One guaranteed to send stress levels rocketing through the roof. And, with many people having already donned their metaphorical tin hat in anticipation (!), it’s not surprising that one – less that positive (!) – little mantra is so popular at this time of year. Although, to be fair, it’s a perennial favourite all year round. 
 
Often known as “Sod’s Law” – or “Murphy’s Law” – it says quite simply, “If something can go wrong, it will.” While we haven’t been able to find out exactly who Sod was (!), apparently, Murphy’s Law came from a Captain Murphy. He was involved in the testing of high speed jets and said, of one of the technicians working on the project, that “If there is any way to do it wrong, he’ll find it.” It quickly became known as “Murphy’s Law” and another mantra – or motto – was born. 
 
So, are we suggesting that you should fall back on this all too common “glass half empty” approach to the festive season? 
 
Well, no. 
 
Instead, we’re going to suggest two alternative little mantras to help smooth your path and get things moving in a much more positive direction. 
 
Ready? Then here we go… 
Last week we kicked off our annual dose of festive season common sense with a reminder that perfection never wins. Good enough is always good enough. Yes, really! If you missed it or need a quick reminder (!) click here
 
Having seen off that particular monster for the time being – ever the optimist (!) – this week we’re going to shine a light on one of its close relatives. One we allow to run rampant far too often. Or, let someone else send in our direction… Guilt. 
Goodness, it’s the second week in December already – deep calming breaths all round – and the madness of the festive season is upon us. Having seen some rather frazzled Clients in the last few days, we thought it was time for a dose of common sense. That’s if we dare use those two words in the same breath, Christmas and common sense (!). 
 
Moving swiftly on, we’re going to use the posts running up to the big day to try and inject a little sanity into proceedings. And, in the process, help reduce the collective blood pressure and less than reasonable expectations about the season… 
 
Ready? 
 
Then here we go. 
If you’re a car driver, you’ll be used to the myriad of hazard and warning lights on your dashboard. Whether you know exactly what they’re for – or not – is another matter (!). Some orange, some red. Some blinking, often rather aggressively. Others coming with a warning shriek or, as an elderly relative used to call them, “whingers.” With there being so many different ones these days, it can be hard to know which ones to pay attention to – NOW!!! – and which can be safely ignored, for a while at least… 
 
And it’s exactly the same with us, albeit less high tech. We all have our own unique warning signs and symptoms that something may be amiss. Whether a little or a lot. We just have to notice them. 
It seems to be a common human failing that we all find it difficult to ask for help at times. 
 
Sometimes it’s because of a terrier like tendency not to let go until we’ve sorted out whatever it is. “I’ll do this if it’s the last thing I do.” 
Or, perhaps, it’s down to embarrassment – or pride – that we think we’ll look stupid if we ask for help. “Everyone else can do it, why can’t I?”. “What will people think?” 
 
While it may sound like a bit of a cliché, there’s nothing stupid about asking for help. In fact, exactly the reverse could be said to be true. Knowing that you need help, but not asking for it, now that is stupid. 
We’re often asked by Clients about the latest “must have” book / film / online course / fill in the blank. There are thousands of them out there, so we’re sure you know what we’re talking about... 
 
They all tend to follow a similar format and promise to transform your life. And, most importantly, with minimal effort on your part. Perhaps by improving your general health or a specific health condition. Or maybe your popularity, love life, job or financial position. 
 
With many people being curious and enjoying learning new things, it’s not surprising that so many of them end up on their shelves at home. But, all too often, they fail to live up to the hype. 
 
Why is this? 
While there’s now greater awareness of adrenal fatigue, you’re still likely to receive a less than sympathetic response from most conventional practitioners. That it’s really just a myth. How the – often vague – set of symptoms being experienced are probably all in your mind. Oh and there isn’t a specific blood test to diagnose it. Sadly, this isn’t a joke, but something we hear all too often from Clients… 
 
All too often, another label may be given for the symptoms. Depression. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. ME. Glandular Fever which, ironically, may not show up on a blood test either depending on the virus concerned. However, as these all mean that the deeper underlying cause isn’t identified, any improvement tends to be short term at the best. 
 
Why is this? 
And, yes, we know it’s a very clever play on words, but that doesn’t stop it from being true... 
 
Assumptions do make an ASS out of U and ME… 
 
So, the question is, why do we carry on making them??? 
While we may not like to admit it, humans are driven by their feelings. Positive and negative. Good and not so good. Those we’re fully aware of and those we’re not – even though they may be very obvious to those around us (!). 
 
Interestingly, most of the time people seem to be completely oblivious of this simple truth. And that’s regardless of whether they consider themselves more of a logical left brained person or an intuitive right brained one. 
 
We’re naturally drawn to people and things that make us feel “good” – or at least less “bad” (!) – and away from those that really make us feel “bad”. Since everyone’s idea of what constitutes “good” and “bad” is different; it’s not surprising that it can sometimes be difficult to fathom out the choices those around us are making… 
As Clients and regular readers of this blog will know, we love people watching and find the human condition endlessly fascinating. And, before anyone gets the wrong idea, we’re not talking about it from an “OMG” point of view. Nor from a professional one either, although David can spot a dodgy Hip, Back or Knee at a 100 paces (!). Our interest is simply that no two people are precisely the same. And, yes, we know it’s a cliché, but that doesn’t stop it from being true. 
 
While we each have our own particular foibles, – or endearing little habits, if you prefer (!) – beliefs and behaviours, there are many we seem to share; whether we’re aware of it or not. The one we’d like to focus on this week is something we can all succumb to at times although, sadly, it seems to be in danger of becoming the norm. 
 
So, what are we talking about?