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We're almost there...

Posted on 11th March 2020 at 07:29

Well, here we all are again, going a little further down the rabbit hole to take a look at what’s been going on in our heads for all those years. Without us ever having been aware of it.

While we may like to think we’re in control of our thoughts, sadly, this is a long way from the truth. The only comfort is that we’re all in the same boat. Have all fallen for the same little trick aided, in large part, by the Little Monster in our heads.

And if this sounds like bad news, IT MOST CERTAINLY IS NOT. After all, how on earth can we do anything about it, if no one realises what’s going on?

All going well, over the last couple of weeks, you’ve started to notice what’s going on in your head. Become aware of both the EFFECT of your thoughts, words and deeds – apologies, we still haven’t been able to come up with a less biblical sounding trio (!) – but, more importantly, the CAUSE. The belief – or assumption – underlying them, which sets the ball in motion.

Digging a little deeper...

Posted on 26th February 2020 at 07:15

Since the start of the year – and brand new decade (!) – we’ve been looking at our tendency to always look outside for the reasons for whatever’s going on in our lives. Suggesting that, perhaps, we’ve been looking in completely the wrong place.

Instead of looking outside ourselves for the reason – “It’s nothing to do with me, honest Guv” – we should be looking inside. And, this is where it can start to get quite scary for many people.

Before we pick up where we left off a fortnight ago, we’d like to take a quick look at WHY we find it so scary.

Well, the simple answer is that it’s another one of those cunning little tricks, the Little Monster in our heads plays on us; which stops us from making any changes.

There really is no need to panic

Posted on 19th February 2020 at 07:24

With the near saturation coverage of the Coronavirus outbreak on mainstream media, it’s not surprising it’s become the number one question from clients. As well as from friends and family. A topic of great concern.

While the position is still far from clear, only a little research is needed to show that the picture being painted in the mainstream press is, at best, over simplistic. Unnecessarily alarmist.

As so often is the case, there are a number of different factors playing a part, rather than one single – and easily identifiable – cause. Equally true is that there’s no single – or simple – solution.

However, it’s not the specifics we’d like to focus on today. Instead, we’re going to take a look at two more general issues which keep coming up when we talk to people about it.

Going further down the rabbit hole

Posted on 12th February 2020 at 07:45

A couple of weeks ago, we looked at our tendency to always look for external reasons for whatever’s happening in our lives. And how this quickly leads on to the perennially favourite “Blame Game”, as we find lots of reasons why whatever it is has nothing to do with us. Honest, guv.

Unfortunately, there’s a big flaw in this logic, which we seem to be completely oblivious to. A very large elephant in the room. If, as we’d like to believe, it was all down to external factors then, a little distance from whatever it is, would solve the problem. Unfortunately, as we all know far too well, this never quite works. Whatever it is just comes with us and continues to press our buttons.

So, continuing with simple logic, if the cause isn’t an external one then there’s only one other place to look. Inside, within ourselves. And this is where it starts to get very interesting, if not a little scary. If you missed this post you can find it here.

Why life is ALWAYS an inside job

Posted on 29th January 2020 at 08:11

It’s interesting how some blog posts trigger a much greater response than others, often not those we expected. We’ve had a great example of this already this year and we’re not quite at the end of January (!).

While the first post of the year, with its different perspective on how we really experience the world has triggered some lively discussions; it was that about cause and effect which really got things going. Particularly our observations about karma, which seems to have touched a rather raw nerve with some people.

Why is this?

Become a child again...

Posted on 22nd January 2020 at 07:50

Having started this shiny new year – and decade (!) – with posts designed to get you thinking, we thought we’d take it easy this week. So, we’re going to keep it simple, short and sweet. Hurrah!

So, what are we going to talk about?

Well, it’s something that we adults – and, sadly, too many children – spend far too little time doing. That’s if we do it at all. Playing.

And, we’re not talking about all those games on your favourite electronic gizmo. Or, even, the more old fashioned board games or card games. Let alone anything more physical or “organised” in some other way.

Life is all about cause and effect

Posted on 15th January 2020 at 07:55

There are some clichés which have stood the test of time and bear repeating. So, that’s exactly what we’re going to do this today. That life is all about choices.

Some are made consciously, others unconsciously or by default. However, regardless of the method used and whatever was done – or not done (!) – there are ALWAYS consequences. Sorry, but it’s true! Welcome and less so. Large or small. Immediate or seeds sown far into the future.

Despite this, it seems that many people find it difficult to link the choices they made at some time in the past, with whatever they’re now experiencing in their lives. In other words, the cause and effect.

Not surprisingly, this can lead to a feeling of powerlessness. That things are happening to them. Or, worse, that life – for some reason – is out to get them. “Why does this always happen to me?” A downward spiral quickly develops.

Why is this? Well, there are a variety of reasons.

A brand new decade beckons...

Posted on 2nd January 2020 at 08:30

There are some traditions which never seem to change, with the making – and breaking (!) – of New Year’s Resolutions being a seasonal example of this. It’s a topic we cover every January, albeit from various different angles, and, if you want a quick reminder, here they are:

For the madness behind New Year’s Resolutions and why they simply don’t work, click here.

A suggestion to ditch your New Year’s Resolutions and do something more powerful instead, click here.

An easier way to make – and achieve – your New Year’s Resolutions, click here.

A suggestion for an easier way to start the New Year, click here.

And, finally, Inspiration versus perspiration, click here.

So, we thought it was about time for a different start to this bright new shiny year and decade (!). It’s a simple question that’s designed to get you thinking and, fingers crossed, will also give you a different perspective on life.

Why do we find it so difficult to simply say that we don't know?

Posted on 11th December 2019 at 09:01

We’ve all been in situations where – for whatever reason – we haven’t been able to admit that we haven’t a clue about whatever it is. We just don’t know.

And it doesn’t seem to matter whether it’s something big or small, of great importance or of little consequence. We simply don’t like admitting that we don’t know.

We’d also be willing to bet that, as you’re reading this, the Little Monster in your head has quite a lot to say about this simple statement. How it definitely applies to everyone else but not you (!). How you’ve never done such a thing. As if. And the like…

Unfinished business

Posted on 27th November 2019 at 08:48

And, if your halo is shining and think this doesn’t apply to you, think again!

Whether we like to admit it or not, we all carry around a little – or a lot (!) – unfinished business with us. Big or small. Far in the past or much more recent. Something we try to turn a blind eye to – or perhaps not...

Unfinished business is like a heavy bag we’re lugging around with us all the time. Draining our energy and getting in the way. Distracting us from the here and now.

And it’s not just our precious time and energy that we’ve wasted by starting something we’ve never quite finished. Often, leaving something open – in limbo – is much more draining than doing something about it. As well as the effects its ripples have over our life as a whole. And we’ve all found out about that at some time or other (!).

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