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Do you have an attitude of gratitude?

Posted on 24th August 2016 at 07:45

Happiness – or the lack of it – is a subject that frequently comes up with clients and one we’ve discussed several times in the blog.

So many people seem to have forgotten what it’s like to be happy. And we’re not talking about the transient happiness from the latest gizmo or “must have” but a deeper sense of being happy with yourself and your life.

Spend time with young children and you’ll quickly see that happiness is our natural state. Our default setting.

Yet somewhere along the way we seem to have lost touch with it, so by the time we’re “grown up” anyone who’s happy is seen as “a bit odd”.

100 not out (!)

Posted on 17th August 2016 at 07:45

And “no” we’re not talking about telegrams from the Queen or cricket either…

Just in case you haven’t guessed it yet, we’re talking about the 100 blog posts we’ve made over the last couple of years. Even though we’ve covered a huge range of topics – and some more than once – they all have the same underlying message. And it’s such an important one that we wanted to use this blog post – our 101st (!) – to focus on it.

If you need a hint it’s at the bottom of every blog post – even this one.

So what is it?

Is you mind full or mindful?

Posted on 10th August 2016 at 07:45

A couple of weeks ago we wrote about meditation. How it’s much easier than you could ever have imagined. That you’ve probably being meditating for years in your own unique way without realising it. And why there’s so much more to it than its hippy’ish image would suggest.

So, this week, we thought we’d introduce you to another technique. It has similar benefits to meditation but is equally misunderstood. Mindfulness.

And if this sounds much too much like more navel gazing, bear with us. You may be surprised by what mindfulness really involves. How it instantly cures one of the most widespread of modern complaints, of time rushing by too quickly. Each day passing by in a blur of activity. Not having enough time to do what we want – or need – to do.

Is there more to meditation than "peace, love and panpipes, man"?

Posted on 27th July 2016 at 07:30

Despite meditation having become, dare we say it, “mainstream” in recent years, its hippy’ish image continues. And that’s a real shame for everyone. Not only because it has nothing to do with illegal substances or “peace, love and panpipes man.”

But because there are huge benefits from doing it regularly AND it’s much easier to do than you ever imagined. You’ve probably been doing it for years in your own unique way without having realised it.

Misery loves company

Posted on 13th July 2016 at 07:45

What with the traditional english summer we’ve been enjoying (!) and all the political shenanigans, there’s plenty to be miserable about at the moment. And we haven’t even mentioned football, tennis or the upcoming Olympics. Let alone the delights of a fortnight in the sun with your “nearest and dearest” to look forward to (!).

While DNA and our genes are often blamed for this negative focus – and our inbuilt survival mechanism always being on the lookout for threats – there’s another much simpler answer.

Left, right or the best of both?

Posted on 29th June 2016 at 07:45

As we’ve mentioned several times before, ideas for our weekly post come from many different sources. This week we have both clients, friends and family to thank; who all raised the same subject in quick succession. And have also shown us what a can of worms this subject can be.

So what are we talking about? Intelligence. What makes a person intelligent.

And that, as they say, is where the fun really starts (!).

While many learned people have grappled with this question over the centuries, the thing that immediately becomes apparent is that there’s no simple answer to this question. Or, dare we suggest it, an objective one either.

Do you try to do it or just do it?

Posted on 15th June 2016 at 07:45

As regular readers of this blog will have realised by now we find people endlessly fascinating. Not only what they say – or don’t say (!). How they say it. Their body language. And lots more besides.

What particularly intrigues us is how little thought many people seem to give to what they’re saying. To the words they’re using and whether they really mean what they think – or assume (!) – they do. And, crucially, whether they realise how easy it is for one single word to undermine their best efforts.

Confused?

Shouldn't they - or I - be over it by now?

Posted on 1st June 2016 at 07:45

This is a sentiment we regularly hear from clients and you probably hear it – or think it – too from time to time. Whether about yourself or someone else.

Whatever the grief or loss, there seems to be an assumption that they should get over it in a short period of time. A few weeks or months. And then get on with life without making any fuss.

Some say this is a British affliction – stiff upper lip and all that – but it seems to run through many other countries and cultures.

The real question is whether this approach helps the person concerned?

Is ignorance really bliss?

Posted on 18th May 2016 at 07:45

From time to time we hear people – friends, family and clients – repeat the old saying that “ignorance is bliss” but is this really true?

Perhaps, in the short term, ignorance may be bliss. It’s certainly the easy option. Whether it’s carrying on oblivious to what we’re doing. Or the deliberate turning of a blind eye.

But how about the longer term?

And it can be very long term. Months, years or decades later. When the chickens come home to roost; the consequences of our actions – or inactions – become apparent.

Why do we see making mistakes as bad thing?

Posted on 4th May 2016 at 07:45

It’s always struck us as ironic that so many things we consider to be bad are really good things in disguise.

Perhaps it’s because we can’t immediately see the benefits and so classify them as “bad” without looking any further.

Or maybe it’s down to our old friend, peer pressure, which says that we should all do things in a certain way regardless of how well it works for us.

We call it “backwards thinking” and a great example of this is our attitude to making mistakes, which are automatically seen as a bad thing. As though having things not turn out in quite the way we expected – or wanted – is wrong. Something to be avoided at all costs. And certainly not to be admitted to publically. Unless, that is, we want to look stupid.

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